Top Ten Ways to Improve Your Relationships 1) Four words: "Honey, you are right". If you look back at any disagreement you have had with someone, can you see where it was due to each person feeling that they were right and the other person wrong? When one is willing to give up having to be right about it, the disagreement dissolves.
2) Love the others in their love language.
We all have ways that we love to be loved, know what loves looks like to us. We have our own personality in love too, our own love language or pattern. To truly know another is to know their love language and what matters most to them. It also means them getting to know ours.
We all have ways that we love to be loved, know what loves looks like to us. We have our own personality in love too, our own love language or pattern. To truly know another is to know their love language and what matters most to them. It also means them getting to know ours.
If we love others, not as we think they want to be loved, but according to their own love language, we will be meeting their needs for love. They will be more inclined to care about loving us how we want to be loved as well.
Caution: Vitamin L (love) is great however it looks, so be sure to see all the ways love shows up in your relationships!
3) See them as superior to you.
This is in tandem with not having to be right. If you see the other person as greater than you, superior to you, there will seldom be a selfish or high minded thought or action. To value another in that way, respecting them and honoring them, will create a palce of peace.
This is in tandem with not having to be right. If you see the other person as greater than you, superior to you, there will seldom be a selfish or high minded thought or action. To value another in that way, respecting them and honoring them, will create a palce of peace.
4) Know the power of love never failing.
Bring love to every situation every happening, every tragedy, without th eother emotions ruling, will keep the relationships in the best place they can be. Love has never failed and never will. Showing and being love only brings beneficial results and healthy relationships.
Bring love to every situation every happening, every tragedy, without th eother emotions ruling, will keep the relationships in the best place they can be. Love has never failed and never will. Showing and being love only brings beneficial results and healthy relationships.
5) Give more than receive.
There is greater happiness in giving than in receiving. If both parties in the relationship hold this as their motto, it will be an amazing relationship.
There is greater happiness in giving than in receiving. If both parties in the relationship hold this as their motto, it will be an amazing relationship.
6) Be willing to say the big three words: "I am sorry".
People who have had much success in their relationships see the value of saying they are sorry. This also goes in harmony with not having to be right and seeing others as superior to you. To say to someone "look, I messed up and I am deeply sorry I hurt you" is one of the greatest repairs to any misunderstanding. They happen, as we all make mistakes, but it is the big person that can admit it and make it right.
People who have had much success in their relationships see the value of saying they are sorry. This also goes in harmony with not having to be right and seeing others as superior to you. To say to someone "look, I messed up and I am deeply sorry I hurt you" is one of the greatest repairs to any misunderstanding. They happen, as we all make mistakes, but it is the big person that can admit it and make it right.
7) Know the power of the tongue.
Oh, the tongue can set the woods on fire and cause plenty of harm. Our words can either build up or tear down. Wise people use the power of the tongue to build others up.
Oh, the tongue can set the woods on fire and cause plenty of harm. Our words can either build up or tear down. Wise people use the power of the tongue to build others up.
8) Be forgiving.
You have heard people who have been married a long time say how it takes two good forgivers. To FOR-GIVE means to GIVE as beFORe. To let it all go, all that is gone, and give as before it happened, it an act of love and makes for a fresh start and a happy relationship.
You have heard people who have been married a long time say how it takes two good forgivers. To FOR-GIVE means to GIVE as beFORe. To let it all go, all that is gone, and give as before it happened, it an act of love and makes for a fresh start and a happy relationship.
We must forgive as we want others to forgive us. We have all done as they have done, we are all human beans that need forgiveness and a lot of it.
9) Let them be.
When we allow others to be themselves, we let them be. Free to be you and me. No one works well under nagging, oppression, controlling, questioning motives or jealousy. Allow others the freedom to be themselves and they will do the same for you. We are all our unique selves and want to be allowed to be that!
When we allow others to be themselves, we let them be. Free to be you and me. No one works well under nagging, oppression, controlling, questioning motives or jealousy. Allow others the freedom to be themselves and they will do the same for you. We are all our unique selves and want to be allowed to be that!
10) Say the most powerful three words and say them often: "I love you".
It is not enough for people to think you love them or even know it, to hear it is powerful. These are one of the three most powerful words in the world! Use them and use them often.
It is not enough for people to think you love them or even know it, to hear it is powerful. These are one of the three most powerful words in the world! Use them and use them often.
I invite you to go beyond your perception of what love even is. Is love based on someone earning your love or them being someone special to you? Love comes first and always, even to strangers, because we were loved before we were born. If you believe in Jesus loving us first, you get it. Love first.
Bette J Shaw is a Certified Holistic Health and Lifestyle Coach who supports women in creating a life they love, filled with passion and purpose, letting their light shine.This, of course, includes setting and realizing goals in all their relationships!
Bette will work together with you on many aspects of life, building these more fullfilling relationships and balance in the other important areas of life. Your areas of concern are where Bette supports you.
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